House of the Tomato

If a woman wants to be a poet, she must dwell in the house of the tomato. -- Erica Jong

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Facebook Says We've Been Friends for Three Years

Yes, it has been three years my daughter, since you told us,
changed your name, grew your hair long, and
started hormone therapy, transforming your gender.
You changed your driver’s license, passport,
set up a new Facebook account and Email address.

But of course,
we’ve been “friends” since conception,
you growing within, then around me, for three and a half decades.
Facebook congratulates us on our “friendversary” of a whole three years.

One hot day last summer you tucked your braided hair
close to the crown of your head.
Hair pushed back, I caught a glimpse of my son,
the broad nose, firm brow, the well-known forehead freckle that
is now, almost always covered with curls.

It has been three years with a new Facebook persona,
where you started over as a woman, virtually and in reality.
In that time, Facebook says we’ve exchanged 653 “likes”.
Well, of course we have.
And in three years I've learned, my beautiful child,
that life goes on.
It goes on,
as if nothing ever happened.


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